After your initial breakup, you go through a whirlwind of emotions and the first is a denial stage thinking that your ex was angry and made a mistake and will call you at any time to apologize and you will get back together again.

Then after a couple of weeks depending on you, since each person, since each person is different in the way and the time they take to process their emotions, you begin to realize that they will not call or come back to you. , so you rehearse over and over again. about what I should have told them.

So the feeling takes over your whole world, it collapses and turns upside down, a demon rips your heart out of your chest and you are inundated with all these different emotions at once and you have no idea how to deal with them. them.

You can’t listen to music or watch movies because every song or movie, whether it’s about a breakup or love, makes you think of your ex, which makes you cry and cry. You lose your appetite for a while because eating makes you sick to your stomach and reminds you of all the meals you shared together.

Then you feel very, very depressed, they don’t care anymore, you wonder if they ever loved you at all. You feel like life is not worth living without them and all you want to do is crawl into bed and stay there forever feeling sorry for yourself.

You start to fear that you are going to be alone for the rest of your life and then you start to overeat, especially junk food to be comfortable and you don’t care if you gain weight because if your partner didn’t care why would they ? someone else?

Your mind starts racing as you think endlessly about why they REALLY dumped you, wondering if they were being honest when they told you their reasons, if they had nothing to do with an affair, you start to think the worst of them. all blame them and you get really, really mad at them.

Then the obsession stage begins and you start calling your ex several times a day to see how he is and what he is doing. Secretly, you hope they are as miserable as you.

That doesn’t work because they start to ignore your calls so you start constantly texting and emailing them. They spies and bombard mutual friends with questions about them.

Then after a while you start to calm down a bit as each day that passes it hurts a little less.

We are not all the same and we all go through these emotional stages differently, but all of the above is absolutely natural and common to feel, so don’t feel guilty about your feelings. But if you’re trying to get your ex back, obsessive calls, texts, and bombardment from his friends will have him rush to the other side, never to be heard from again.