I often write about choosing the gender of your baby at home without the cost of a clinic or gender specialist. I recently received an email from a woman who said, “I want to have a baby. What can I do to make sure this happens without spending a lot of money?” I’ll answer this question and offer hints and tips to make it easier in the next article.

What you need to know if you want a baby boy: If your goal is to have a child, then your true goal is really, solely, just this: you want the sperm Y chromosomes to arrive and fertilize your egg first. Once this deal is made, if you do get pregnant, you will have had your only chance. That’s because this Y sperm produces boys and the X sperm produces girls. A man’s sperm contains both chromosomes, so you’ll need to get rid of the Xs or slow them down to give the Ys the best chance.

Before I get into how to do it, I need to tell you why these things work the way they do. The good news is that the sperm-producing boy is the faster of the two, by far, actually. The bad news is that they are the weakest, also by far. Therefore, you will need to find a happy medium where you can take advantage of the speed and lessen the weakness that will often prevent you from succeeding. I’ll go over three ways to do this below.

Syncing it right on the first try: The first thing I’m going to talk about is time. Since these guys are so weak, they don’t have the luxury of time. If you wanted a girl, you could conceive up to three days before your ovulation date and be fine, because the X sperm will have no problem waiting. This is not true if you want a blue nursery.

However, this is not your reality if you want a sound. If you force these chromosomes to wait, they will weaken or die. At best their speed may no longer be a factor and at worst they won’t be around to compete. Therefore, you will need to wait and wait until the day you ovulate. But, the problem is that you have to be absolutely sure that you are right. You cannot and should not guess.

I made this mistake and it almost cost me. I assumed that I was ovulating mid-cycle, but when I got a saliva ovulation predictor, I found out that I was trying six days early. This could have been a big mistake. If I had been successful in getting pregnant, I would have increased my chances of having a girl instead of a boy. Luckily, I was unsuccessful that month and got another chance.

If you want a baby, make sure to lower the PH of your vagina: If you introduce already vulnerable sperm into an acidic vaginal environment, you are definitely shortening their lifespan. To be as friendly to these little guys as possible, you need to lower your PH.

This is what I think is the easiest way to do this. First, get a saliva PH tester or strips at a health food store or online. Follow the instructions and challenge yourself to see what you have to work with. You may already be quite alkaline, which means you’ll have an easier time.

No matter where you land, determine if you want to follow a low PH diet or if you want to shower or both. There are advantages and disadvantages to both approaches. Not everyone likes to limit the types of food they can eat (although you only have to do this until you reach and maintain a low PH). And not everyone is going to get used to douching (again, this can be a short process). But, I can tell you that if you want to get the fastest results, you can combine both methods and go for all of them, continuing with the tests. with the strips so that where you are having your best success. Examples of acidic foods to avoid are most meats, corn, and coffee.

The sexual positions that are most likely to give you a baby boy: Okay, here’s a pop quiz. Remembering that male sperm are weak and cannot survive a long, hard journey, what sexual positions will work best if you want a son? Yes, deep penetration. This seems self-explanatory, but many people make the mistake of not calculating the height and weight of both, among other things. What works very well for one couple may not be very effective for another. It is important to experiment as to what works best for you. Putting a pillow under your hips or elevating your legs slightly may help.