I am often asked what benefits I, as a non-dominant woman, derive from strict male chastity and orgasm, especially since my husband, John, and I are not in the D&S lifestyle. The truth is, they are so many and varied that it’s hard to put them in order, and unless you’ve experienced them yourself, you might find them hard to understand, especially as a woman (so if you’re a man reading this, then I recommend that you have your wife read it as well.)

Benefits of strict male chastity

First, is the improvement in your sexual life in general. To me, the great paradox of male chastity and orgasm denial is that you actually end up having more sex with your husband, no less. The only difference is…she just doesn’t orgasm at the end like she used to. And while couples obviously vary, in my experience, the longer you leave it between orgasms, the better your sex life will be.

Second, is the almost incredible increase in physical (not sexual) and emotional intimacy between the two. Some people equate this with the man becoming ‘submissive’, but this is not the case. Yes, some men are submissive, and the feelings aroused by orgasm denial undoubtedly increase that tendency, but a similar effect is seen in non-submissive men as well.

Why?

Simply because they feel closer to you (compare that to the ‘early days’ feelings you had when you were first together), and people who feel close naturally want to do good things for and with each other, in other words , male submission. and female dominance are by no means a requirement for male chastity and even ultra-strict orgasm denial, but they are perfectly complementary to them.

Y thirdBelieve it or not, your man is happy in and with himself. You see, your man feels the changes your relationship has gone through just like you do. And he’s no happier than you are with the way your all-night sexual activity has degenerated into a tired quickie.

So for him, male chastity and orgasm denial is a chance to go back to being the man he used to be to you in that sense. And that makes him a very happy guy.

I understand that male chastity and strict orgasm denial may even seem unloving to women, but they are not. On the contrary, I think they are one of the most loving things you can do for a man. Since I’ve been in control of John’s orgasms, our marriage has gotten so much cooler and more fun. it was not bad before, but you can never have too much fun, right? However, John has been in orgasm denial for a full year now and we are now seriously talking about making that permanent, which means he will never orgasm again. He thinks it’s a small price to pay for the benefits we both get from denying her orgasms from him.

But, and this is important: if you read the Internet forums you will come across a very polarized, inaccurate, misleading and even harmful point of view of male chastity, especially for someone who is serious about getting into the lifestyle and persuading their wives to play with them.

And if you’re sick and tired of the hype, then it’s time to get some safe, sane and real information and advice from a genuine couple who lives the 24/7 lifestyle.