It is that time of year! Stress levels rise as everyone feels the pressure to enjoy a perfect Christmas. Some people, however, may be newly single and apprehensive at the prospect of being alone in such a family time. Others may have relationship problems, worries about visitors and in-laws, or are tense at the prospect of spending more time with their partner.

Let’s consider 7 tips for managing stress in your holiday relationships.

– Accept invitations if you are alone. Familiarize others with your situation and allow them to include you in their plans. Be a good guest and it will be a welcome addition to your day. And if you are in a relationship, it can be good to accept invitations and introduce a change of activity, conversation and scenery.

– Don’t expect everything to be perfect. It is an impossible ideal, to put undue pressure on yourself and others. And besides, it’s often the mishaps that become a fondly remembered part of family folklore.

– present a united front, even if you disagree in private. Support each other, reserving serious conversations for a more private time when you’re alone. Apologize quickly if you made a mistake or said too much. Be loyal and graceful.

– go outside. Hours of television, alcohol and snacking on chocolate can make tensions explode. Organize a soccer game or a scavenger hunt. The fresh air gives everyone a breather and can introduce some healthy competition.

– Prepare a rich soup, stew or stew in advance can be a good alternative to an excess of rich food. Offer a hearty gift after a brisk walk and bring some reality back to your relationships.

– Involve people. Instead of one person insisting on doing everything and becoming overtired and resentful, make holiday preparations more inclusive and fun. Even children can have chores, like folding napkins. They often take pride in their responsibilities. Suggest that the mother-in-law cook the dish she is ‘famous’ for, or encourage others to host a contest or game of charades. Give them credit for their efforts.

– Include yourself in your schedule. You’ll enjoy Christmas more and be less stressed if you spend the occasional 30 minutes in a relaxing bath or reading a book. Ask overnight guests to babysit for a few hours so you can hang out, chat, and enjoy some festive time together.

These thoughts offer 7 tips for managing stress in your holiday relationships.