Everyone is good at something, not just a cliche, it’s a lie!

I’ve always had a problem with the “everyone’s good at something” mentality … I mean, why does everyone have to be good at something? Are there not nearly 7 billion people on this planet? Isn’t it logical to think that with so much diversity, there must be some people who are just plain pathetic about everything? I know there are some people who seem to be really good at everything, so why not the other way around?

I’ll tell you why, it’s because people need to tell themselves something that helps them feel better about themselves. When you are not good at anything, you say to yourself “everyone is good at something!” and suddenly you feel a little better about yourself. You convince yourself that you have not yet found what it is. It might just be me, I’m such a sadist, but I think it’s just more frustrating and depressing for people to tell me that all the time, only to keep insisting not to be good at anything.

Instead, I’d be so much happier knowing that not everyone has to be good at something. It’s okay not to be Gretzky playing hockey, Jordan playing basketball, or Gates taking over the computer industry. Reassure me that I don’t have to win the Olympics to be “like everyone else.”

I know what you are thinking, the purpose of the statement is to give you hope and motivate you to get out there and try some more. But you have to realize that when someone is depressed, when they feel defeated, when they feel like they just don’t fit in with the rest of the world, a statement takes on an entirely different dimension. Suddenly you feel that everyone has expectations of you that you “know” that you cannot meet. It can be very demoralizing.

Instead, you should pay attention to people who tell you to just be happy with who you are. You don’t have to be good at something to be loved or even respected. Have confidence in yourself, even if you are convinced that you will never become something great. Because most people don’t and that’s okay.

That doesn’t mean stop practicing or stop trying new things. Anyway, you should keep searching and keep experiencing new things because even if it turns out that you are not good at any of those things, at least you have those experiences, those adventures, those memories! And who knows, you might find something you’re good at too! Maybe!

Don’t beat yourself up if you’re really not good at something, it sure sucks for that, but so does just about everyone else. We “average” people outperform the “good at something” 1000 to 1. We can face them in a fight … even if it’s the fight they’re good at.

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